Arguably, except maybe raising children, marriage is the hardest thing that you're going to tackle in life. It's something you go into all starry-eyed and full of dreams, and when the realities start, it can be difficult to adjust. Hopefully you knew this going into your commitment, for it can come as an unpleasant jolt if you're thinking that marriage is going to be nothing but wine and roses. If the marriage is to be successful, then both partners will need to work together over the long haul.
Just because you're married to someone doesn't mean that you have to forsake everything else in your life such as your friends and hobbies. If you focus all of your attention on your spouse, then you'll get bored sooner or later. Both of you will need to spend time away from each other. Imagine spending a lifetime doing nothing but watching TV and having dull conversations about the kids night after night after night. You will not only get bored with each other, but you'll become a very boring person yourself. Everyone needs to have a well-rounded life.
Although it's important to care for the children properly, don't give them too much attention to the detriment of your marriage. Children love attention, but to give it to them constantly is going to make them spoiled and unable to function on their own in a school classroom. If you pay all that attention to your children, then you won't have much attention for anything else in your life. Your spouse will definitely appreciate spending time alone with you too. Otherwise, you're going to lose touch with each other.
You should also think about spending enough time with yourself too. You can't expect to be happy with your spouse if you rarely have enough time to make yourself happy. Spend some time learning yourself. Although it may sound selfish, spending time getting to know yourself and appreciate all that you can do is one of the best gifts you can give your husband and your family.
Don't Give Up On Your Marriage When Things Get Bad
Arguably, except maybe raising children, marriage is the hardest thing that you're going to tackle in life. It's something you go into all starry-eyed and full of dreams, and when the realities start, it can be difficult to adjust. Hopefully you knew this going into your commitment, for it can come as an unpleasant jolt if you're thinking that marriage is going to be nothing but wine and roses. If the marriage is to be successful, then both partners will need to work together over the long haul.
Just because you're married to someone doesn't mean that you have to forsake everything else in your life such as your friends and hobbies. If you focus all of your attention on your spouse, then you'll get bored sooner or later. Both of you will need to spend time away from each other. Imagine spending a lifetime doing nothing but watching TV and having dull conversations about the kids night after night after night. You will not only get bored with each other, but you'll become a very boring person yourself. Everyone needs to have a well-rounded life.
Although it's important to care for the children properly, don't give them too much attention to the detriment of your marriage. Children love attention, but to give it to them constantly is going to make them spoiled and unable to function on their own in a school classroom. If you pay all that attention to your children, then you won't have much attention for anything else in your life. Your spouse will definitely appreciate spending time alone with you too. Otherwise, you're going to lose touch with each other.
You should also think about spending enough time with yourself too. You can't expect to be happy with your spouse if you rarely have enough time to make yourself happy. Spend some time learning yourself. Although it may sound selfish, spending time getting to know yourself and appreciate all that you can do is one of the best gifts you can give your husband and your family.
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